During our engagement, we didn't really go out a whole lot. Partly due to the fact we both worked full-time, but also we were just happy spending time at each other's houses, talking, playing cards, and of course eating. This time gave me a good indication as to what married life would be like for us; just finding joy and contentment in being near each other.
Right now, I am lying on our bed and Anthony is in the lounge room. We have a wall between us as I type, but I feel complete because I know he is near me. Not to sound all "Jerry Maguire", but Anthony absolutely completes me. I didn't NEED a man to complete me, it wasn't that sort of thing. But Anthony is so much a part of me now that I don't feel like me without him.
During our ten years of marriage, we have seen quite a few marriages break down. It confirms to me even more that life doesn't always go as planned. Things happen that strain relationships and weigh us down. It's almost easy sometimes to see how it happens, but for us we have been blessed in that our struggles have brought us together and not divided us. In fact, I would actually go as far as to say we are not strong in spite of our trials, I believe we are strong because of those trials.
I don't necessarily think we have endured more than anyone else, but I know we have faced our own dark moments. We have had nearly non-stop health struggles with both myself and Carter. I was reminded a few days ago that on our honeymoon I was so severely sun burnt I couldn't even have a sheet touch me. I also had a nasty ear infection that left me vomiting a couple of days. That should have been Anthony's warning sign of what was to come!
The thing is, he has never once made me feel like I am a burden to him, or to 'us'. He takes it all in his stride and gives me a feeling of security that I know he will be beside me in whatever comes.
I don't believe people, or even marriage, are perfect, but in some strange way, I believe love in itself CAN be perfect.
When we are tired and cranky and snappy, I know we still love each other.
When we are crazy busy and like passing ships at times, I know we still love each other and that even though we aren't in each other's presence, we are in each other's thoughts and hearts.
When Anthony achieves something wonderful, I feel like it's happened to me.
On those occasions when we do have a fight, I still know underneath whatever is bugging us, everything is stable and fine and I am very loved.
We have seen each other ill, exhausted, unkept, unshowered and still see something beautiful.
We randomly come home from the shops with the others' favourite treat just to bring a smile.
We both have quirks that drive the other nuts and push all the right buttons, but we still love each other.
These are the realities of marriage, and I have found in marriage you can experience a perfect type of love, and that's pretty incredible. I know it's not a lifetime, but we are a decade in and I have never been happier thanks to my sweetheart, my best friend, my doofus, and my heart.
Happy 10th Anniversary my sweetheart.
I got a good one!
(Big thank you to Tim Coulson for his time and talent)